Dayton, Ohio 1955
by George Brose
This story takes place over sixty years ago when a child’s life was ever so much simpler, learning grammar and punctuation, letter writing, hitting a baseball, following a coach’s instructions, honoring a father and mother who lived in the same house, fearing hell fire and damnation from a Baptist pulpit and with any luck discovering sex by the time you got to college.
Our fathers had been to war, but they never confided to us what that meant. In their lives what came before the war was an economic crisis that had battered them for most of their early youth. By 1955 they had survived a post war housing shortage, begun raising their families and in a time of relative prosperity were steadily employed in factories where they had every reason to believe their lives were stable and would remain that way for the rest of their working days.
I knew only one classmate who was an orphan of war, only a few children whose parents were divorced. I knew no one who was openly gay, yet ‘queer’ and ‘cocksucker’ were commonly used in our pre adolescent speech. I had no idea what those words meant or implied. The parent of one of my classmates was imprisoned during the McCarthy era for falsely signing a non-communist affidavit. He indeed had been a member of the Communist Party in the 1930's and was still a strong union man. To keep his job in that McCarthy era he was required to sign the affidavit, and when it was proven that he had indeed been a member, he was imprisoned for six years. The meaning of those words was never explained to us. Somehow his wife was able to keep the family intact. The daughter would go to college and earn a doctorate in chemistry from Johns Hopkins and the son would become a watchmaker. In school we practiced 'ducking and covering' under our desks if a blinding flash from a nuclear weapon ever occurred. It was the fear of a Russian A-Bomb that far outweighed the promise of burning in Hell if I didn’t believe in Jesus.
My parents never attended church, but by the time I was five years old, they sent me to Sunday school at the church nearest our house. It happened to be Baptist. The first pastor I knew was a fairly liberal guy for a Baptist. He and his wife lived across the street in an upstairs apartment. When he left to be the pastor at a church near the Ohio State University campus, we got a hellfire and damnation pastor from the hills of West Virginia as a replacement. That's when I got to have a healthy fear of God drummed in me. When I was twelve, I chose to be baptized, because I had a crush on a girl in my Sunday school class who was getting baptized. The week after I was baptized, a deacon came to our home and persuaded my parents to make a donation to the church. My father committed to giving a week’s pay to the place. When I was told that God would speak to me, I never heard a voice, so I gradually drifted away from the mundane promises of those men who were to be addressed as ‘Reverend’. The last straw was when I found myself kneeling on the church steps one night with my basketball team, praying to win a game. Somehow I did not equate that with doing the Lord's work. We did win the game however. I was completely out the door of the church by the time I was sixteen, but the thought had been rolling in my brain for several years. It took some time to overcome the fear of what might be the price of leaving. In the end the price was nil. A good friend in high school ended up marrying that girl and left his wayward life to become a 'good Baptist'.
In my own readings I learned something about evolution, and brought up the subject in my fourth grade class. My teacher screamed back at me that Christians don’t believe such nonsense and then sent me into the hall. I endured a year of that woman who was responsible for teaching arithmetic and homeroom each day. On another occasion while looking for fossils which had been mentioned in a general science text, I found a 300 million years old horn coral in an Ordovician streambed. I brought it in to show and tell. We had a woman of about 60 years of age as a substitute that day. She incorrectly identified it as “an object with which heathens pierced Christians’ hearts”. This was in a public school system. Most of the teachers taught us to think, weigh, and reason, and they had the most lasting effects on my education. Miss Whitesell, Miss Shannon, Miss Derrington, Miss Kelbe, Miss Markus, Miss Green, Miss Slaght, Miss Charch, Mrs. Arnovitz, and Mr. Helmbold, you all did your job well.
In the attic of our home were stored several years of National Geographic magazines. I saw my first bare breasts in an article about the island of Yap in the South Pacific. The magazines had been passed on to me by an elderly man who had been a patient of my aunt who was his visiting nurse during a lengthy convalescence. His name was Edwin D. Smith, an engineer with the National Cash Register Company in Dayton, OH. He had been a friend of Branch Rickey the general manager of the Brooklyn Dodgers when they were both young men. Mr. Smith told me stories about Mr. Rickey and his bringing Jackie Robinson into the majors, thus integrating the National League. At the age of nine, I didn’t understand the significance of those acts, because I think I had never met a black person face to face. Our city was segregated in a de facto sense and in a de jure sense as well. If you look at Dayton newspapers from those times, in the housing ads, the terms ‘whites only’ or ‘colored only’ are quite common.
For me the mixing point began when my parents bought me a membership to the YMCA. The classes at the Y were still very segregated, because there was a YMCA branch in West Dayton where ‘Negroes’ were mainly confined. But in the YMCA summer camps, whites and blacks came in contact. The first black person I ever talked to was a 10 year old boy named Claude Jones. If I made even a brief friendship at camp it was with Claude. I asked him about playing together when we got home from camp. Where could I find him? He told me the address on Germantown Street and that he would most likely be playing in his front yard if I came that way. I never thought of asking him to come to my house. I could have easily travelled by bus to go to his home. Unfortunately our friendship at camp did not go beyond our camp experience. I probably got re-involved with my friends as soon as I got home. I was not at that time an adventurous kid in terms of relationships. But in those days a ten year old had a huge radius in which to play without supervision by his parents. I could go downtown on the bus, if I asked permission. In fact to go to the Y on Saturday mornings did not require permission. I was shooed out of the house. We knew the city bus drivers by name. My favorite was Mac McClanahan. When the Y gym classes and swimming were done by noon, I usually stayed downtown, had lunch at Morty's 5 Cents Hamburgers, and went to a movie, double feature, and got back in time for supper. Once and only once, my companion of the day, Billy Strader, and I stayed down to see ‘Blackbeard the Pirate’ a second time and neglected to call our parents to inform them. By 8:00PM our Dads were downtown looking for us. That kept us at home for a few weekends, but it was more for not reporting in than our parents’ fear of molesters and kidnappers.
By the time I got a bicycle the radius had expanded even more. We could pedal out to the countryside, build fires along streams, look for arrowheads, go fishing. It was almost like living in the country. It developed a sense of adventure. The unwritten rule was be home by supper time, which at my house was early, 4:30PM. The upside was it left many hours to play after supper.
My friends and I did a lot of things I'm not particularly proud of, but it was how we learned right from wrong. How we learned anything without social media is not a mystery. We could go to the library and read the encyclopedia. My parents even bought me a World Book Encyclopedia when I was about 12 years old and we were starting to do research papers. By the time I stopped going to the YMCA on Saturdays, the city library became almost a social center and a place to meet kids from other parts of town. The index card catalogue was our Google Docs in those times. If our library didn't have a particular book we could order it from an out of town library that had the book. It wasn't instantaneous but it was still effective. The grading of those papers must have been excruciating for teachers as they were all handwritten. That's why learning to have legible handwriting was so important.
This is far from everything I want to say. I've barely touched on sport and said nothing about sex, nothing about death, but I'll leave that for another story. I leave you with a fun little song by Randy Newman and sung by Harry Nilsson called "Dayton, Ohio 1903" a bit before the time I've tried to describe, but it let's you downshift into a slower more thoughtful era. See the link below:
COMMENTS
Hi George, I really enjoy reading your posts. This one is very different from my youth, where the small number of students, about 30 for all 6 elementary grades had 2 teachers, one being replaced in the last year or two of my time. We did not know about human sex until high school, in spite of the obvious animal sex around us. And the attraction of girls was their appearance and friendliness did not result in anything. There was no YMCA. We would swim in farm ponds or sometimes streams if the water got warm enough. Swimming meant moving in the water, keeping ones face above the water.
